Four defining moments of my life, have sculpted me as a person, as a husband to be the man that I am today, however the final defining moment that I am sharing with you all today, redefined everything that came before.
Everything that I thought I needed to be, everything that had brought me to this moment was about to change, not temporarily but forever. This final defining moment could be argued to be the a direct result of the previous four and a whole new chapter in my life
The Future Generation
After discussions for a couple of years and trying to take the most sensible approach and wait until we were financially stable, we decided it was finally the right moment to try for a baby. It was time to take our relationship to the ultimate level and create anther human being.
To skip forward the details 😊 we were pregnant and it was time to drastically change my mentality on everything. I was no longer going to be responsible for just myself and Hannah, but for a little human who was unable to do anything for themselves.
The pregnancy wasn’t as smooth as we had hoped for, as Hannah developed Hyperemesis. For those of you that are unaware of what that is, its basically taking morning sickness, dialing it up to 100 and then having it continue for the whole 9 months. For some people it eases over time and gets better, however Hannah had it bad and would have to go into hospital weekly to have fluids and vitamins through a drip as she was so sick. Hannah wasn’t one of the lucky ones either as it lasted the whole pregnancy.
This added an extra layer of complexity to the pregnancy but also in a weird way brought us even closer together as I needed to step up and look after Hannah now too. After what felt like a lifetime for Hannah I’m sure, it was time to bring the little one into the world.
After around twelve and a half hours, we got to introduce our son to the world. He was finally here, it was that moment filled with excitement, an overabundance of love and so proud of Hannah for what she had done not only in the last twelve hours but in the last nine months, that my defining moment was now a reality. My life was about to change, for the better.
Having a child is one of the best gifts I think you can get and I never take for granted how lucky we are to be in a position to have one as I know not everybody can.
The reality of having a child is also that you sign an invisible contract saying that you renounce all sleep, privacy and any extra time in a day. The first few months are very tough, especially the first couple of weeks getting used to the sleep deprivation, but like all things you get used to it and before you know it, this is the new norm.
This year has been extremely difficult for everyone, there has been a lot of suffering and also a lot of loneliness that has swept the nation as a result of COVID 19.
One by product of this pandemic is that I have been able to spend the best part of my sons life at home with him as he develops and becomes more and more of a character. Don’t get me wrong I wish it was under better circumstances that I was able to be at home with them both, but I have valued and loved being around both Hannah and our son everyday day.
Everyday that passes, the older he gets, the more he wants to do things, the more responsible I have to be to look after him and also to set him up for his future.
This is a big deal to me, shaping his life and his future and it is for this reason and the way in which my life now is that this is my final defining moment.
I really hope you have enjoyed finding out more about me and more about what I feel makes me the person I am today.
I would love to hear your feedback and also would love to share your defining moments, so leave a comment below 😊